Today, I shared a “grab bag” of writing ideas with my students. It’s a folder they can click on in their Schoology app in case they’re stuck for something to write on. I selected one of the topics at random to demonstrate how to set up a new document, and I figure it’s a fun one to dive into for today!
How often do you talk to yourself (and what do you say)?
Oh heavens. I talk to myself. A LOT.
The most common thing I say to myself out loud? “Okay.” As in…
Okay. (Time to get your lil’ ole self together, Lainie!)
Okay. (This is hard, but you’ve got this.)
Okay. (All right, what’s the next thing on your list?)
Okay. (This might not turn out, but let’s see what happens.)
Okay. (You’re on a roll, just…keep…moving…)
My “okay” is combination pep talk, nudging, needling and encouragement, depending on the context. Usually, when I say “okay” out loud, it’s right alongside a big sigh. Which, you can imagine, is SUPER fun for folks around me to be hearing all the time, especially my poor husband. (I promise it’s not you, honey!)
Another favorite on my self-talk-out-loud greatest hits collection? “We’ll see what happens.”
I say this out loud any time I’m about to try something new, different, or perhaps equal parts brave and foolish. Which means you’ll hear this come out of my mouth OFTEN when I’m at the gym.
As for the rest of my self-talk, much of that happens in my own head, sometimes quietly, sometimes forcefully. I’ve been working on this one a LOT, trying to replace negative or self-defeating patterns with positive and encouraging ones.
That’s a lifelong conversation.
It’s disheartening on the surface to know that the problem doesn’t just magically disappear when we become grown-ups. But for me, there is comfort in knowing that. That relieves the pressure to have it all solved or figured out. And, as a teacher, if the pressure is off of ME to have it all figured out, then I can assure my kids it’s okay that everything isn’t all figured out.
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